OTB Syndrome

One of the reason I write and my writing comes from heart and soul, based on the deepest of emotions has to do with this Syndrome. What is Outside the Box Syndrome? I am sure you have all heard of it, but maybe its not called the same thing. OTB Syndrome is when someone lacks the ability to understand something simply because they have not experienced it themselves. The lack of Empathy! Anyway, with my stories, my poetry, my site for autism I write in an attempt to bring you into the box.

What drives a person to do things that they do? What makes them happy? What makes them sad? What breaks their hearts? What makes them have errors in judgement? What they truly feel that they never talk about? It leads to assumptions and wrong conclusions. It leads to the over-reaction and misinterpretation of a situation. When you suffer from OTB Syndrome, this can cause hurt to the one you have associated it with. It is easy to give advice, pass judgement and make your own opinion on something, when you are not in the shoes of that person. Sometimes it is good to have someone that has OTB. I think that there is also a line, a boundary of sorts also. Before approaching them with your OTB, are you willing to understand, also the ITB (In the Box) Syndrome. Can you also take into account the other side of things?

When you bring the two syndromes together, you can have many different reactions. Sometimes it is a good thing. Sometimes it is good that ITB gets a view point of OTB. In other instances, when OTB lacks significant details and reasoning, it can turn very ugly. This something that can not be taken lightly. When a friend has ITB syndrome, it is always a good thing, to think about some things before the initial approach. Always ensure that you have all the knowledge and facts to offer, to the best of your ability the OTB advice. ITB is a very serious Syndrome. It can turn a typical nice person into someone very nasty very quick. *This is called *Over-Stepping Syndrome*. OS syndrome has ended family ties, marriages and friendships, especially when they suffer from ITB and another suffers from OTB.

After careful consideration I have decided to offer some typical warning signs and appropriate ideal approaches in the meeting of someone with ITB Syndrome and OTB Syndrome.

Warning when approaching someone with ITB

1. Ensure that you have all the facts before approaching with OTB advice.

2. Consider the emotional being of the person with ITB

3. Always keep in mind the importance of the situations of the issue

4. Body language is a key factor, if the ITB person shoots daggers with their eyes, back off.

5. Never, ever forget that the person with ITB has all the facts and a personal interest in the situation, hence the OS Syndrome.

If you have OTB

hmm.. well the above covers this side too.

Anyway, this is a very serious thing to think about. We all suffer a little bit of ITB and OTB. Whichever case applies to you, please make sure you heed the warning and approach with extreme love, caution as you risk OS and potential the finalization of the end of what otherwise could be a wonderful relationship.

Giggling

(wrote December 9, 2009, back when I was writing and being me)